Hawa Hawa Aur Ho Bus Itni Si Hai Dua

These days I wake up listening to the two most soul touching songs of bollywood music this year each conveying the restless of a human soul but in different lights. Both glorify the love with the pain one has to go through. Love starts with Hawa hawa where one understands the true shades of oneself, one understand how one’s inner needs, desire are altogether different from the worldly web one creates. Once Love starts it will never stop and what it will lead to no one knows. Even the King’s money and power couldn’t debar the Queen from her quest. Love is so clouting that lovers impede to bother for the world and lovers build the world for themselves where they live. Once society begins raising the eyebrow on their act, they commence to comprehend the LOVE in their life. And the turmoil just begins where this voyage will take them,they don’t know and what they want to do is another question. Helplessness just sets off and it’s too late for them to realize. It’s beyond their control and what they can do to relax themselves is the only issue running through their mind. Helplessness is the only thing that stays with them. They keeps hymning “I have become a string tangled in wish, untangle me...”

The voice of helplessness lingers in their heart and they wish for this storm to stop. But another voice in their head will want to burn more. To balance this they desire that only fireballs burn not the smoke. Smoke feels smokey to them. To lovers even this pain is not enough and they are ready to scarify themselves and convey this with most beautiful lines

“kaaga re kaaga re mori itni araj tujhse chun chun khaiyo maans khaiyo na tu naina more, khaiyo na tu naina mohe piya ke milan ki aas..”

O Bird, I have so much of request to you, eat flesh,but do not eat my eyes, don't eat my eyes as I have a wish to see my lover.. .

After all this, one still want to FALL IN LOVE again may be with same person or different but that’s the magic of purest feeling.One become the naadan parindey and longings to meet one's lover never ends. I just hope all the people in love or want to be, to attain the clothes of karma and bestow by God.

Rockstar - Rocks

Have you ever felt agaped and elated, all at the same time? This was how I felt after watching Rockstar. I was flowing freely as if performing a ballet act and going through gamut of emotions as movie was progressing on the 70mm.Cinematography was marvelous where embroidery on a piece of cloth with multi-coloured thread was delicately handled. Where on one hand I was stunned after watching the performance of a Ranbir Kapoor and Lt. Shammi Kapoor ,their eyes never needed any word but bewildered on another hand by the acting skills of Nargis Fakhri. Even though she had strong screen presence and beautiful face but Imtiaz Ali could have taken someone with strong prowess in acting to match with the Ranbir Kapoor’s acting skill.This was so much evident when Nargis wanted to run away from herself also after waking up and watching Ranbir kapoor next to her, Ranbir running after her. This scene was so classical scene of movie where director wanted to show the struggle with yourself in form a ballet act upto which Nargis couldn’t live.Was Imtiaz Ali not able to get the grip on the Indian audience pulse this time? Audience has loved the spreading rainbow, flourishing colourful shades all around but Rockstar created the scenery in grey shades with music alone. I felt very awful for viewers who couldn’t connect with the movie and Jordan character. Imtiaz Ali has challenged everyone to think to make sense out of the movie but he has forgotten we struggle when food is not given on our platter. When in the song Sadda Haq Ranbir Kapoor says line “ Kuch saal phele yaha par ek jungle hota tha or do parindey rahte…..” and later when Jordan sings “Nadan Parindey ghar aa jaa…” How many could co-relate  between songs first of all and then with grief of Jordan when he sang both the songs? Finally Indian Cinema is coming but I doubt on the maturity of people to appreciate the creative gem of the year. 

Monetization with new definition

I have always believed that all things we do are somewhere co-related in one way or another. Writing a blog on two disparate themes and diverging it into one. This resembled conveying all my emotions through just the song titles. While studying the macroeconomics concept idea of this blog struck in my mind. So one part of my brain was registering how the business and monetary cycle works and how alteration in repo rate can revolutionize the whole economy. Other part of mind was absorbing the relationship issues due credit goes to my classmate. Relationships work on a Philips Curve and follow an inverse relationship between the rate of society stiffness and the rate of break ups. 

Globalization and Strong Communication System are part of the monetary and fiscal policies followed by the Government to lower the unemployment and cultural openness in terms of relationships. Initially like short-run Philips curve number of relationships leading to marriages was increasing with society relaxation but when we see the bigger picture as more and more cultural repose has taken place the more and more marriages go through the turmoil and divorcees. Is it so simple to define the relationships? One parameter leads to another. If it was so simple why we are facing so many issues in that area?  Relationships like macroeconomics is complex where Central Bank can apply few monetary policies trying to control the money for the banks but whether it will lead to liquidation in the economy or not, Central bank cannot be sure. Fiscal policies are even not created by the Central bank but Government use to direct the aggregate demand in the economy. Although relationship on the surface may involve only two people but there are other driving force in partnership especially in Indian Context involvement of the family, situation also have a huge impact on the people. Couple having the driving seat may be driving the car of their alliance on the guidance provided by their parents. It’s a like Tic-O-Tic game who will win the game you never know because association are run by 4 experienced players not the 2 people who are in love.

Bodyguard singing Dhunki in this Mausam on Sadda haq

When this mango person (I) had lost hope from today’s music to appease her soul, her rockstar spirit just wanted to sing Sadda Haq Aithe Rakh. After hearing all the mango songs I just wanted to scream “tera dar,tera pyaar ,teri waah,tu hi rakh,rakh sale” This rage might have entered into a vicious circle if not Dhunki ,apt to its name – magical spell was all around me in another vicious circle. Next I found my love for the music and plethora of emotions I was going through beautifully articulated in lines “Teri Meri Prem Kahani”. Hymning the lines “katiya karoon” and I fancy that this elusive feeling never ends . When you keep on walking chanting “Isq Risk”, you just want to eliminate “Ik Tu Hi Tu Hi” from your darkest dream. I crave my mind to tune to “Koi dil bekaabu kar gaya aur ishqa dil mein bhar gaya aankhon aankhon mein wo laakhon gallan kar gaya oye o rabba main to mar gaya oye shaidai mujhe kar gaya kar gaya oye”and this channel is never atuned. Longing for the euphoria where I know the without music I can say “Pooore se zara sa kam hain Pooore se zara sa kam hain tera mera hona to hai tere mere hone se
tu fiza hamari hum mausam hain tu nadi hai kinara tera hum hain haan dhara tera hum hain bin tere hum to poore se zara sa kam hain”

Nature - Best Things in Life are Free

I have always thought I would write this article at MDI on the bench watching people play football and greenery all around. Few days back I was sitting at the same place having conversation with a friend how after so much chaos and noise just about still this place is so peaceful and calm. The logic I got was that the trees are surrounding the place and green color has soothing effect.  At that time I found myself saying “The Best Things in Life are Free”. Have you ever seen smile on a child’s face because of droplet falling on his face. I am not sure about others but atleast weather has put smile on my face every now and then. God has created Mother Nature with so much effort and given this gift in our hands. All required things at right places and right time. If you don’t agree with me, see how watermelon are seen in the deserts only where it is required. Have somebody wondered why Muslim gals are so beautiful? The way their society is, it is vital for them to be beautiful. Whenever the Deity has created anything it has some purpose behind it, sometimes we understand it and sometimes we don’t. When we have such a beautiful gift why do we keep playing and fiddling with it? We are disrupting the natural balance, so when see so much mayhem around us why we keep cribbing? Why we blame others? Why don’t we take it as our responsibility and start doing our bit?  While I have left all of you with the probing question to answer for yourself, let me go on my favorite task of shopping. My friend has put in lot of confusion now whether to buy a green color dress for my birthday or pink one which I have liked? Now this is the question I need to sort out before my next birthday and let me begin my search from now on

Fuzzy is a fuzzy word

When I first heard the line “Zero is not Zero. One is not one. Zero has more zeroness in it. One has more oneness in it”, it seemed fuzzy to me and something related to whims and fancies. It allied with my thoughts that everything in life is neither white nor black it’s always grey. Shades of grey determine whether we will call it white or black. Now lets’ put it this in simple manner  statement “Today is a rainy day” will be true 100% when it rains all day long, 80% true when it drizzles , 50% true its cloudy and might rain and 0% true if you see sun and no clouds outside. So, any statement that determines more than simple true and false values. Statement represented by the degrees of truthfulness and falsehood uses the fuzzy logic. Imagine instead of digital 1 and 0 we have a sinusoidal curve where 0.7 would be described as 1 as it has more oneness in it while 0.3 would be described as it has more zeroness in it. Now if it is the case how our digital electronics worked when the current would come in the degrees of 1 or 0 rather than absolute terms? Such thoughts only pound us to think where we are today and where we want to go? Are we evolving or are we following the sinusoid? But then are not we internally all fuzzy? If not we wouldn’t have got the famous idiom “Is the glass half empty or half full?” We all are subjective in our thoughts. When we all believe in grey how we can like or posses anything which exists in either white or black? This was bound to come. Fuzzy logic can be used any where we want to depict the connection between two things without giving the complete specification of what the connection is? Fuzzy is such a fuzzy word that describing it is creating fuzziness in itself. Fuzzy concepts are so because learning or the growth of understanding involves a transition from a vague awareness, which cannot orient behavior greatly, to clearer insight, which can orient behavior. Whenever we hear these words Zero is not Zero. One is not one. Zero has more zeroness in it. One has more oneness in it” then be sure we are on the path of learning curve and moving forward to understand things.

If You Love,Love it openly but to carry it requires Understanding,Kindness and Love

I wasn’t writing any blog since I wasn’t feeling passionate about anything. So, what better way to connect with my feeling than the feeling of love? When I reached my office received a mail with Monday Motivator and filled stories of love. So, I took this as God’s signal and started penning down all my emotions. I was reading a Zen Stories and loved 2 stories and would be quoting them. These stories are so beautiful that beauty of any relationship can be understood by them. I have seen people fighting with each other when they find their partner have taken them for granted. People need some compassion and kindness for each other. Same is understood by the story given below


“There was an old woman in China who had supported a monk for over twenty years. She had built a little hut for him and fed him while he was meditating. Finally she wondered just what progress he had made in all this time.
To find out, she obtained the help of a girl rich in desire. “Go and embrace him,” she told her, “and then ask him suddenly: ‘What now?’”
The girl called upon the monk and without much ado caressed him, asking him what he was going to do about it.
“An old tree grows on a cold rock in winter,” replied the monk somewhat poetically. “Nowhere is there any warmth.”
The girl returned and related what he had said.
“To think I fed that fellow for twenty years!” exclaimed the old woman in anger. “He showed no consideration for your need, no disposition to explain your condition. He need not have responded to passion, but at least he could have evidenced some compassion;”
She at once went to the hut of the monk and burned it down.”
To sustain love we kindness else when people don't find that in a relationship they move out of it. Love starts with a walking on the moon feeling ends with walking on the needle bed if emotions are not reciprocated.


While other story tells us about the need of express love, this reminds me of incident when a friend of mine who really loved a guy and was waiting for the guy to profess his love towards her, couldn’t accept the proposal because he proposed through phone.She found the act coward.As per her if you love somebody be ready to accept it by looking into eyes else no point even accepting it.According to her Love is such an emotion which should be so strong to create madness in you else it is not love.
Story goes as below
“Twenty monks and one nun, who was named Eshun, were practicing meditation with a certain Zen master.
Eshun was very pretty even though her head was shaved and her dress plain. Several monks secretly fell in love with her. One of them wrote her a love letter, insisting upon a private meeting.
Eshun did not reply. The following day the master gave a lecture to the group, and when it was over, Eshun arose. Addressing the one who had written to her, she said: “If you really love me so much, come and embrace me now.”


Love must some reason to have madness in it else how we justify some much written on it. I feel incompetent to express it in few lines. As more and more I try to express love in more logical sense it loses charm. It is that gut feel where people they know they can live with that person forever. But once you are in love what next? To carry a relationship you need to have understanding and love both else it will break down. Understanding helps us see the truth, and love causes us to act on it. Understanding helps us to see that for all our superficial differences, we are of the same essence. Without understanding, it is all too easy to be judgmental. We see someone acting selfishly, and a barrage of anger and criticism arises within us. Understanding helps us see past their behavior and to recognize that this seemingly selfish person seeks love and happiness, just the same as we do. Rather than judging that person as “bad”, we view their selfishness as ignorance, and we feel compassion for them. Understanding makes us more accepting, less judgmental, and thereby removes some of the impediments to love. Love is what makes us willing to reach out and touch them, to put ourselves in their shoes. Love is what stops us from rejecting or ignoring those whom we may otherwise recoil from. Whereas understanding is helpful for love, love is absolutely essential for true understanding. The love comes before the understanding. They each boost each other and one is incomplete without the other. Without understanding, there is a danger that the love will go away. Understanding is what maintains the love and helps it expand to encompass all. Yet without love, the understanding is empty.


I hope with this blog all the people who want to fall in love or already are, would be able to create a beautiful relationship with love and understand both like a recipe doesn’t get its flavor till all ingredients and spices are put in it.Love never ends but requires some kindness and understanding.

Silence is discomfort for many ........I had to break it !!!!

Writing another blog is a necessity for me right now else I would lose my flow especially after how last month has shaken me internally. I know it is not upto the mark but Silence has given more discomfort to me this time that I have to break it. I was feeling as if life is a delusion and walking day and night disconnected with things going around. Darkness or Light meant same to me. Zen Master’s lines were running in my mind that “Zen Master went to sleep and saw he has turned into sheep. When he woke up and went to his pupil and narrated the story to them. He raised a question in front of them “whether he turning to sheep was reality or sheep turned into Zen Master is a reality???” Reality seemed deep but this phase has only made me understand “essence of mind is not born, so it will never die. It is not an existence, which is perishable. It is not emptiness, which is a mere void. It has neither colour nor form. It enjoys no pleasures and suffers no pains.” Walking with this lines further I wish I live forever in mind of people for beauty I create in their life with the mind I possess.

Life and Death are Inevitable but valuing that person is in our hands

Life is the hardest teacher, it gives the test first and the lesson after. This is how I am feeling right now. I am overwhelmed with so many emotions and didn’t know how to let it go. But some part inside me said lets capture this moment for my whole life and what better way than penning it down. I want my Nanimaa(Grand Maa) from wherever you are seeing to forgive me for taking some bits our relationship in public. Today my Grandma passed away and I felt as if one of the pillars holding me has fallen apart. I felt something inside me has died and I don’t know how long I can hold this building together. When I heard the news I went through all the emotions described below

“maine aapne har aansooo hassi me chupae hai.... pta nhi khuda ki kya marzi thi aisha sahlab aaya or hum beeche sadak me aapna rona hi nah rok pae.....Nanimaa these lines are dedicated to u .... u were the one who imbibed in me to keep faith in God.... Now I doubt those lines ....I needed u most in this phase of my life when he(GOD) has taken you away from me....”

All these few hours have made me revisit all the moments I have spent with her and how she has shaped my life. All the people who have known me as hard person and who know I don’t cry much like gals etc is partly due to her who has shown me the internal strength of a woman. She was one who imparted the fighting spirit in each of my cousins. On one hand she used to make us understand what’s right and what’s wrong and on another hand she was most fun loving person I have ever seen of her genera. She used to be part of almost all our pranks but still maintained a discipline in us. My cousin brother used to tease her to see her million dollar smile by calling her Sexy after release of Kuch Kuch Hota Hai. Imagine that my very cousin has a birthday today. Today all those years when we would wait for our breaks to meet her and have best of the time seems like a distant dream.Writing each word makes me weep but I would try to hold my tears here only as she has always said “Always carry yourself with dignity and grace”. Maintaining that head held high I can only say I truly love you nanu… you were my jaan . As in my childhood today also I am fighting with everyone to be with you, like old days please convince everybody that I can stay with you for few more days.

If anyone of you has any person whom you value a lot please express your love as soon as possible before its late and you regret it later and you have say the line "Life is the hardest teacher, it gives the test first and the lesson after". Today I find living in this reality tough and want to break all the worldly web apart just to be with her.

Does God Play Dice!!!!

When human being was not able to define the whimsical and capricious way of Mother Nature, he feared it and pantheon them as God. This puzzle seemed unfathomable for ages even by Great scientist. Its intensity can be understood by the famous statement by Einstein, who didn’t liked randomness in nature, “God doesn’t play dice”. The world has always kept surprising us and defining it in deterministic terms appeared distant dream till Edward Lorenz showed to the world through his Chaos Theory through his paper Butterfly Effect. When I read this theory I fell in love with mathematics “Ich leibe Es”. I am sorry to all those people who thought I might be writing about all the equation or how this theory evolved and I am just attaching the link for the same

“http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chaos_theory”

I will try to put across the theory in the simple manner correlating with real- life and I hope Edward Lorenz and Mandelbrot will pardon me if I am incorrect anywhere from wherever they are looking.

”Chaos often breeds life, when order breeds habit”.

How many times have you found yourself saying that I am standing on the almost same cross roads? Even in astrology life is decided in the set each of 7 years where it is said you will experience same situation every 7 years. Even in the noise around us we can find the moments of silence, it’s like having a similar triangle and keep on pasting a smaller similar triangle on it from all sides, the view would be of figure or diagram which we wouldn’t be able to describe but it is following a pattern .In the nature this pattern never repeats only to finite times. If it is so straightforward what took mankind to discover it may be because Not only does God definitely play dice, but He sometimes confuses us by throwing them where they can't be seen. I have always believed that God has given a jigsaw puzzle to be solved by each of us in this journey of life. So, on this journey we have to search for those concealed pieces and put them together. But if you find yourself in almost situation every now and then, it just means that we have not introspected ourselves and keep repeating the same mistake. All the chaos has a purpose in our life and follows an order. We have to learn our lesson well else we will keep experiencing the chaos. Although we are able to predict the stock market, weather and waterwheel through chaos theory but still universe’s nature or our life prediction can’t be complete in any definite manner as the Deity still has few tricks up his sleeve.

Paint it Red !!!

It’s bizarre for me to use the above phrase when I have dreaded the Red color in any form to maintain my calm and peace.


I would like to apologize to people who love red color, as unlike them, I was never able to associate red color with energy (aggression) or love. I have always held red with darkness especially the blood red color due to its association with death. If anyone has any qualms on my thoughts for red please scrutinize the title of Hindi movie “Red: the Dark Side”. Even the phrase Paint it Red originates from Melton Mowbray town which is well-documented and which also conveys to being involved in riotous spree. But this time red has not petrified but exposed its optimistic light on me.


Early this morning when I woke up and plugged in my Television set, I watched the song Ik Junoon (Paint it red) from Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara. Trust me it gave me passion to move forward in my life. True to the lyrics of the song I forgot all about the past, broke all the chains and left all the complications behind to live for the moment. Music has always played a vital role in my life but never knew it will lend a hand to lift my spirits once again after an infuriating last week where surviving even one day was tough for me. Due to mental chaos, I met with three accidents in a row but would say that With the Grace of God almighty, that time passed. I know this time will also pass but before this time goes away, I want to go on and on. I request all that please don't go green, let’s try together to view the world with different glasses and take the world and paint it red. So if anybody wants to celebrate the Tomatino festival in India instead of Spain this June to pristine after so much madness around them during and before this fest, do let me know. I would surely join. I am on cloud nine for no good reason apart from hoping to paint everything around me Red. I hope this doesn’t become another cliché which I would regret later in life.

Will Mango People Get their Aam desires fulfilled while walking on eggshell

All throughout my life music and dance have given passion to drive my soul at a level I can’t describe. They have acted as backbone in all phases of my life. Hindi music is enormous that we have songs for all seasons and reasons. Just take the Hindi film music only we have songs like “Dekha Ek khawab toh yeh silsile bane” or “Aaj kal phano Zameen“ or “Aaanewal Pal” of 1980’s to “Sheila Ki jawani” or “Muni Badnam hue darling tere liye” to latest to this list is “ Bhaag Bhaag DK Bose”. As the Indian society have changed so has changed the music to keep audience enticed. Neha Dupia has once said only 2 things sell in this industry “SRK or cheap slangs”. So when one stopped selling at box office, film makers have resorted to other.

But shift in just one year is mind blowing from a gal singing “Munni badnam hue” portraying the character of the someone who doesn’t fear to display her affection for a guy in this world to Sheila Ki Jawani , gal who doesn’t need a guy to make her feel pampered.She is happy just being with herself and knows how to enjoy life. So, easy expression of love has become and single status is now people vouch for. To challenge Munni and Sheila, Deepika Padukone added the quotient of Dum Maaro Dum Phir kaahe ki society, saali kaahe ka paakhanda where she just said stop carrying about this damn society and everyone has almost same needs so why care about the hypocrites. Then with jazzy pop beats Party Abhi Bakki Hai lyrics just conveyed where people have learned to party harder on weekends to avoid frustrations of the office. When gals were creating so much buzz I think guy felt left out and  its time to take the lead so our all time favourite bachelor living heart on the shoulders said what people have been saying to him Character Dheela Hai. Then the last one in the list “Bhaag DK Bose” was bizaare for me.First the lyrics “Daddy mujhse bola, Tu galati hai meri Tujhpe Zindagani guilty hai meri Saabun ki Shaqal mein, beta tu toh nikla keval jhaag, these lyrics made think how struggling the life of people have become but punch was the word “Bhaag DK Bose”. It was just accidentally that I realized this fact when I was watching the Zoom Channel and a director pointed out how can censor board approve of the “Bhaag D.K.Bose” Song? This compelled me to Google on the same and I just felt naïve. It just raised a question in my mind Are we really the Mango people with Mango desires or we are accepting whatever is coming our way. With all the tamaash going around us is it truly only the music being jeopardize or our souls? If somebody finds any retort to balance this act just help the emotional people who found peace in the music of Mozart or Pandit Ravi Shankar or Mohd Rafi or Kishore Kumar list would be long and today’s five minute fame songs.

True Diamonds - Rare Collection

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EVaqel3KKVE

Real fabulous!!! Can some one say more for latest Tanishq’s True Diamonds Advertisement? When I was watching this well crafted master piece I was in the middle of writing another blog but somehow felt that it needs special attention. I always believe if emotions are not conveyed then and there, they lose their charm.

Tanishq Tata’s prominent jewellery brand is in India from more than 15 years now and known for its quality. Indian people are among few people across the world till today who buy jewellery especially Gold. This may be  because jewellery's takes people’s minds off their wrinkles.

http://www.deccanherald.com/content/139808/indias-gold-consumption-jumps-66.html

Tata’s  encashed this and came up with an idea where they changed the buying experience of the Indian masses. While they could establish themselves with authenticity in Gold market but still Indian people were apprehensive about purchasing the Diamond jewellery. Even though Diamond are said to be Girls’ Best Friend as she wears her tears like a diamond so clear and sparkling but Can we pin point reason why people don’t buy diamond? If the price is criteria then these days Gold is skyrocketing. Prices of diamonds are partly due to consumers’ perception about its scarcity. To provide clarity and cut as diamond on this, its very hard to resell a diamond. Trading value of diamond is low as consumers are not too aware of various aspects of the diamond. Once identifying this gap Tata’s once again came up with bull’s eye campaign with the objective to create awareness among consumers about numerous qualities of diamond.

This advertisement shows Amitabh Bachchan , a very cultured and stylish person who is still vulnerable about his lack of knowledge of diamond but wishes to buy diamond jewellery for his wife Jaya. He doesn’t want to make fool of himself in front of her. To ensure that before he presents the gift he knows everything, he visits the Tanishq showroom where he meets a prudent salesmen. Casting of Amitbah and Jaya Bachchan seems apt especially when this power couple is seen  together after 10 years and have again created the magic of love and togetherness.With True Diamonds it appeared as if it’s a slice from Amitabh & Jaya’s real life. Tanishq has been able to provide generic education about diamonds and convey that they exchange the diamond product at the current diamond rate in the market within few seconds.

The magnificent advertisement has covered all the 3C’s of marketing. Simplicity can’t be more cute and attractive. I am sure girls like me have always dreamt about diamond rings but confusion about diamonds has inhibited us. But now when Amitabh Bachchan is also vouching for its transparency, we women are sure to fall in love and especially I am enticed to buy a clear 1 carat diamond white gold ring.

Happiness

Many of us would have been bogged down by the word happiness. But when I thought to write on this very word I asked myself what else can I write which have not yet been said. We have already seen movies like “Pursuit of Happiness”.  The Great Leader Dalai Lama have said in his book 
"I believe that the very purpose of our life is to seek happiness”. Happiness is something everyone wants to have. So before moving further let me ask everyone to define happiness for themselves.


If you have associated happiness with money, power and success, Please Stop here and re- visit your definition. If this has been the case then we wouldn’t have seen all the high-society, rocking and successful people depressed or committing suicides. Actually it’s the other way round you may be successful and have a lot of money, but without happiness and peace of mind it will be meaningless. Normally people make the mistake of thinking that happiness is a stroke of luck, something that will descend like fine weather if you’re fortunate. But actually the amount of happiness that you have depends on the amount of freedom you have in your heart. We try to confuse excitement feeling with happiness. When we live our life on positive narcotic moments to make us happy, how we will become happy? One day this living on the edge feeling will stop giving the excitement and we will feel lost. Can a promotion or salary hike or good examination result makes us happy? I am sure everyone on this will sing “In the end it doesn’t even matter…” How can any short-lived event create a long-term thing?


If happiness is associated with excitement then what it is? Even though English word happiness comes from hap or fortunate then why it is that happiness is not the stroke of luck. Happiness is actually within us but in this materialistic world with myopic vision we blind our universe with happiness with materiality. If I try to define Happiness from consumerism point of view we always want one more extra feature added to list for it be qualified to be happiness. And we create a vicious circle around ourselves. Happiness is actually anything and everything that would account for the feeling of elation and contentment. It’s in its basic nature, a pleasant feeling. Happiness is an overall feeling of satisfaction with life that pervades over longer-time periods. Happiness is being content even in adverse situation. Instead of searching it from external source we have to search it within ourselves and define our ultimate end and purpose of our existence. It is a goal not a temporary state.

Life's Paradox

I have always found myself struggling to answer few questions whenever I discuss about astrology, God and way to remain positive even amid darkness. Strangely I have been doing free counseling for lot of people around me or have taken from some of them but this is one question which everyone asks and i.e. “Is there anything in our hands or everything is already planned by Almighty?” There are many paradoxes when we try to answer such questions. If everything is planned then do we have the right to change our destiny through our karma? Do we have atleast some free-will to our existence? When we try to answer this through astrology, I have always got this response “You don’t get anything before time and more than destiny “. If timing is bad when solar system is not supporting you cannot achieve anything. If this is the case then why it is taught that human can change anything with their hard work.

Just to answer these questions I started to learn astrology, palmistry and numerology. At times I feel you name any branch of astrology and I have tried to understand each ones basic concept. Every branch of astrology is a science and based on some calculation. Like Tarot card reading is all about mind reading of the person. It based on the concept that it’s the psychology which builds the future. Our Vedic astrology is based on the planets and can be considered science which can be easily understood if we relate it to simple things .There are mythological stories related to describe about each planet/graha also. The best thing was I could co-relate with astronomy and understand each graha’s characteristics. Nature has been designed so beautifully that we just need to keep our eyes open. Who knows one of Newton is sitting amongst us and discovers another law of gravitational force. If we ask a small kid to describe Saturn, We would get few lines something as “Saturn is second planet and is sixth from the sun. Saturn has rings around it made of some ice particles. It is blue and black in color since it is surrounded by Helium and hydrogen gas”. Now with this information I can always say that Saturn will take more time to revolve around the sun and complete its revolution and since it’s away from the sun and so large in size, some part of it never sees sunshine for a long time while other part is hot because sun rays are falling on it from a long time. Even Saturn’s hindi name “Shani” means who moves slowly and considered Lord of Justice during our life time. Lord Saturn reminds us of the Judge wearing his long robes and encircled by several advocates dressed in black coats. In the courts the dispensation of Justice is a long and a tardy process. That is why, it is said In the Lord’s court, there may be delays, but the Justice is done. As per Hindu mythology he is the son of Lord Suryadev and Chhaya . Sun reign Light and chhaya(Sun’s wife) is the symbol of darkness. Somewhere it’s light and somewhere its darkness (crime).

When I have said so much on Lord Saturn, let me tell you why I took this planet only. Because He is considered to be hardest Lord to be appeased especially when one has offended him. It requires a lot of hard work and good deeds for him to bestow rewards on us. It is believed that Shani Deva has punished even the Gods, demons, sages and human including Guru Deva, due to their offences and bad deeds.

Actually, Saturn is kind of weird planet. It spends most of its time trying to convince you that it's really mean. And then at the end it hands you a big fat gift to make your dreams come true. It's hard to say, but it's helpful to remember Saturn's habit of turning out to be the good guy in the end. Old sayings like "it's always darkest before the dawn," and "every cloud has a silver lining" come in handy when dealing with Saturn. I can continue to write about his stories and how I can co-relate any appearance of him to nature but in gist It can be said “Saturn is the one who might be a slow mover and because of a lot of thinking process, Justice might be delayed but the Justice done is the true Justice and in the right perspective”.

After professing all about astrology, I am not the one to promote it especially because people have made it their business these days and many of them have not even understood it completely. Their calculations are far from comprehension of normal human being. All the predictions made by the astrologers are based on the level they have understood this science. This could be understood by simple fact i.e. Normally people try to match the kundali before people tie knot .How many of us know Ram and Sita had all 36 guna matched but still they had to face separation? If this is to be believed then marriages shouldn’t take place based on only guna matching. Even Ram and Sita life’s were full of sacrifices and trouble .All the deities’ human incarnation form had to go through struggle. If it had been planned why would they plan the struggle for themselves? This is like a riddle which we used to ask in our childhood which come first egg or hen? Shall we able to answer this riddle? I don’t know. Some answers should be left to the deity. But changing my life path as per astrologers’ wishes is somewhat tough for me as he may have miniscule knowledge So, I always believe trust your heart ,never leave your hard work and sometimes use astrology(be sure whom you consult) to our advantage. Even when creating the nature Almighty made Lion -the King of the Jungle still to eat the food he needs to pick the food and put it in his mouth.

Luck favors the brave. Nothing can replace the hard work and if we keep rubbing against the same stone again and again through the rope it will also leave its mark. And I believe that may be something can’t be changed but to some extent we can mould our destiny and obtain desired output as per our deeds. Said so much I would feel unsatisfied if I make castle in air. So let’s say if someone has a bad Moon in his chart, since Moon is a soft planet and related to mother .After knowing this if we talk nicely to our parents especially our mom and touching her feet before leaving the house rather than spending so much time and money on remedies asked by pandit, we would be able to mellow down malefic effect of Moon. May be that’s why it’s said knowledge is dangerous if not in right hands. Where atomic energy at one place is used to generate electricity, it could used to create bomb. People had same knowledge but deeds changed its purpose. Still I recommend that take the initiative, get in the middle of things, and do something for once for you. It doesn't matter what the output is but you won't be happy in life until you get out there and live it. If in doubt remember Luck favors the brave.

God is a comedian showing his talent in front of audience who are afraid to laugh

When people go through lot of low phase of their life people may opt to fight it or take a flight. Choice to move on their life with whatever mode they want will depend on the way they have grown up. People may try to totally avoid the situation or take head-on. Take for that matter Japanese people under adverse situation time again and again they maintain their calm. Maintaining a stoic image for public when internally one is emotionally is distressed. Is it good or bad? I don’t have an answer but figures project something else. Suicide cases are more in Japan. Japanese people are known as hard-working and peaceful people world-wide with no communal disputes, no fight over language, no strikes, No violence and at times no questions and therefore no answers. If this the case then time and again why Japan face the suicide epidemics. Country known for its talented people giving best of the technologies to the world, you name it they create it but still during 2007-2008 People in their thirties killed themselves at unprecedented rates. Government had to release White Paper on Counter-Suicide to curb suicide by 20% till 2017. After even tsunami, nuclear disaster people have a gone through a lot and how still they are being praised to maintain the composure, dignity and carrying with their live. How many of us wouldn’t like to cry when we saw a situation? I am sure many of us would have said yes.

Why go to Japanese culture even same is happening in India. All people around us including ourselves are living an artificial life. But When we this artificial self supersede real self. When our real emotional needs are not meant and we project everything is alright around us but under this covering layer there is a volcano which is no one else even we stop recognizing then such people take extreme steps. Then why is it so that we consider denial to be good and being stoic is worth applauding. Like a dark night a bad phase will also end and lead to bright morning. More the darkness around us brighter the day will be. Life goes through many phases, each of which ends to give way to another. If anyone fears anything just remember when we were kids and were trying to learn riding a bicycle and if we fall down. We might have cried for few seconds but our heart would tell us to pick the bicycle again. We wouldn’t have stopped until we have learnt to ride it. So, why do we now stop when we face few roadblocks in our path?  If we lived our life as it was our last day and don’t waste our time living someone else’s life trapped in dogma. When we follow our heart at each moment we live and I am sure we wouldn’t face so many suicide cases. Even if in the path of life we might meet some dead ends but why cannot we just turn back and move on with our life. When we learn to write as kids, an eraser is as much part of the learning -process as a pencil is. Write, consider, and if you make a mistake, erase it and write again! No harm done. Why can’t we make our life simple by taking it a nice beautiful stride? When we make mistake, stop, make amends and start all over again. How easy it would be if youngsters with failed dreams or marks less than what they desired realized that all it requires is just another try again! Nothing is worth ending your life over! Just wait, consider where you went wrong, think through and try again. So what if the one you loved to distraction walked out of your life? Why end your life while he enjoys his? Give another a chance to walk into the vacant space. Or is it true God is a comedian showing his talent in front of people who are afraid to laugh. Even we believe that everything is already written by God and then at least trust the ALMIGHTY and believe future will have something good in store for us. HE wouldn’t leave us alone. We may not realize it at that time, but later when we join the dots, it is clear how each ending paved the way for a new beginning, and so life moved on towards its destined goal, with us picking up new experiences and learning along the way.

And so, what's wrong with few bumpers in the ride?   The problem is that most of us get so mired in the moment and so attached to what surrounds us that a larger perspective becomes a problem. What is needed at that moment is a step away from the problem so that we can view it in the proper perspective. If a student depressed with his result, could just visualize his entire life and see himself years later in a successful career with a happy family and well cared-for parents, would the marks he has got at this moment matter at all?  Same goes for a business people and working class. If someone who has made a huge loss in business was able to step away from oneself and the moment, wouldn't he think again? Nothing if one look at it as a chance to improve oneself. And rather than regretting them, get on with the rest of your life! And where one dot symbolizes end of a sentence, two more mean continuity. Each ending gives us the opportunity for a new beginning. We just need to be strong enough to take it on!

Hope

It’s been ages I have got this urge to write something, something that convey my thought but still reflect on the things happening around. While searching for this something to write I thought on topics like Cricket- World Cup Win going in background, myself – too boring for other people, divorce rates in today’s society – who wants to hear the lecture when  already many people’s  life s**** on that front, Mahatma Gandhi‘s our icon – sexuality discovery to public through a book and its ban but this was a known truth from a long time  if we try to search Mahatma Gandhi and s** experiment on Google we will find a lot especially in UK magazine archives but still many things are not open for public discussion. So what is that for which I would be enthusiastic and wouldn’t bore the person reading it and would still be thought provoking. Ultimately I thought why I was choosing all such topics and realized we have come far from where we begin our life, like in a country like ours we were not even aware to whom we gave this position of Father of Nation – what was he actually like. The relationships we maintain in our life have also gone to new definitions our parents have become mom and dad, other have got their new jazzy names to suit our lifestyle. When I was a kid all the moral and ethical values imparted to me stand no importance in today’s society, rather it has changed so drastically that we are not even sure about our roles. Indian men may like to say that they will help their working wife with household activities but the fact is that they have not still outgrown their thought process of what women should be and how she is meant to behave. And I know on this many guys reading this would say that I live in some other planet, guys are behaving more maturely on this and more liberal in their thought process but still I think they have a far way to go. Even we girls are not at time sure about our roles are we home makers like yesteryears or we can pass this sole responsibility to guys. I don’t think we are all ready to understand our responsibilities and sex bias we all face all the times. Are we all hypocrites? Our hypocrisy couldn’t be more when from childhood parents want us to secure highest marks among our peers and 95% seems too less to them. But when we work day and night in jobs both parents and we seem dissatisfied for giving preference to work over ourselves or family. Isn’t they have inculcated in their kids to be part of rat race from childhood but they have forgot even if their kids are winner they will still be part of rat race. Does this mean being ambitious is wrong? I don’t think so. On that I would rather say if a person is content with whatever he is doing then how will he rise to next prosperous level and we wouldn’t have seen the growth we are seeing now but striking a balance between work and personal needs is more important. One should be encouraged to do things as one wants to do it. I guess it could be rightly put out the best way to deal with it is to be “content with life” even though “dissatisfied”, so long as one has the proper balance of pleasure, quantitatively and qualitatively. While mentioning all this, it just leads to the chaos created in one’s mind where one doesn’t know which sets of thoughts one should follow and which one are right? We are all searching answers. We are all living in a world where it’s all about marketing especially branding it in a nice package. If we have a look around us, we would understand how everything today is all about marketing. Face book during world cup was an example hundreds of update on everyone’s wall with just one ball miss and sixes within few seconds but with different style. People were just creating audacity. Were they telling that they are concerned about the team or they are watching the match or what? I feel my small mind couldn’t understand such big questions. Mark & Spencer will be launching new pants for guys after wearing that will make guys look more attractive as if the things available in market for gals were less or guys were feeling left out on that front. Guys and Gals both are plastic now days so when they start dating initially what have attracted to each other no longer stands good in day today life. May be once the attraction is gone and real person we are is open which is quite different from the artificial person we are, there comes a mismatch in expectation and has lead to so many divorcees and break-ups in present times. Divorce is now as much part of our society as is marriage rather more of s style statement. People always put their best foot forward whether technically by putting make-up on our faces, branded clothes we wear, cars we drive, houses we buy or literally using the make-up language they use to communicate. People are so much artificial these days that surreal self and real self is hard to be distinguished. So much negativism going down lets try to end this on positive note with realizing that every break –up in our relationships whether be it of boss or subordinate or of colleagues or any personal relationship like of mother –daughter going through lot of rough phases we land up becoming our spiritually cleansed person every time. Each experience forces us to ask ourselves a lot of questions and search our soul for the answers. We come out of it a more evolved and enriched human being. I know it’s important to go through entire gamut of emotions to appreciate beauty of life but I still hope atleast our future generation doesn’t land up in such messy situations where what they believe is not counter-attacked and they think that whatever they believed was so inaccurate and bullshit burden of the crap society on their shoulder to carry on and struggle within themselves to justify their actions. This is Hope against Hope but Hope is only thing that keeps us going and we try to create something better to pass on our future generations that they value the struggle we have faced and provide them a balanced society which is knit closely but provides space to individual to grow on their pace.