Happiness - simplified process

Happiness is the most exploited and cherished emotions. It’s the marketing gimmick used by big advertising industry. May be its human tendency to live our life in the past or future. But it’s not these people have to be blamed. Chain is only as strong as its weak link. May be its not their fault also. We also gravitate towards fun filled moments to be cherished later.  That’s why we have more than 80% movies with happy ending. Can you ever imagine a Bollywood movie having a realistic ending? We love to see our heroes becoming larger than life and at least they live those moments which we couldn’t. It’s more than our illusion we sometimes want to believe in that. Living in those cherished memories is actually good as per the research so don’t feel guilty if you do that once in a while. Do you know people who have lots of moments to cherish which bring smile on their face even today are actually more positive towards life. They are more optimistic about their future since they have lot to hold on to and know if their past was beautiful their future is meant to be greater. So, when you have some memories to really treasure don’t punish yourself rather feel privileged so had good fun. But to have those colorful fest down the memory lane of your book you just have to live in the moment. Create your book with each page so unique that you play holi with your pain with smile on your face.

Translating lines from an old hindi song which are soothing to ears

“Let the world take all the land, the money and the treasures
Give me one such moment that cannot be stolen by anyone in the world
Those moments in which the colourful seasons of love reside
Those times in which the true moments live
 Tomorrow or the future is just a dream 
The past is just a dream 
 I am living in the past
All the fireflies with memories live in the jungle “

Sunshine or Moonlight - Love the Beautify of others and yours

Love is so overrated word and I struggle to understand when people around me start looking for support from other people in their life. I feel like a paranoid woman who doesn’t understand alpha from beta why we have to look outside. I understand that we are social animal but why do we need approval from anyone. Why can’t we be support for others? Sometimes that’s what God wants us to do and face our inner turmoil all alone. We come in life alone and we will go alone many people take ages to realize that. Why do we have to look outside for things when everything is within? We all struggle to find happiness and unconditional love from others. Have any one of us tried to do that with themselves. How many times we have tried to be honest with ourselves. We live in claustrophobic society where what we feel, we can’t express even. Sometimes I don’t blame my co-passenger for this, it’s more because of way we have been brought up and asked to behave in certain manner. We all lie to be perfect at some level butdevelop love ourselves unconditionally. Stop singing “Love me who I am “because its time when you wake up in the morning tell yourself “I love myself unconditionally”.  How many times we had a heart to heart talk with ourself. We keep saying right and appropriate words to people and isn’t it time we say to ourselves. Even if you had a bad day forgives yourself. In life’s larger picture all this will not even matter what matters have you live your life? Pamper yourself when you want. Forgive and move on. This is because the more you love yourself, people around will also do that. If you take pity on yourself people will definitely do that. Time to take care for yourself and learn to stand up for yourself since if we are frustrated for what we are doing , people around us will also of bickering nature.So, learn to be assertive and learn to move on. More you love yourself so more you develop compassion and people around us also loves us unconditionally. Don’t be snobbish or rude but be your own prince and princess. Anytime we have doubt

“Sunshine creates luminous environment around it and moon rays gives strength to tackle the darkness .Each one of us is beautiful in our own way. Love yourself unconditionally“

So, we are as beautiful and charming we feel ourselves to be. So exude your inner beauty and let people know your innate nature.

How Safe is Animal Kingdom's Social Animal....

Which is the safest place in the animal kingdom? Lot will say it’s a Lion’s den … but says who? The King is ready to eat its cub. Nobody is left alone. Each one need to survive each day each moment to live few more cherishing seconds. When animals doesn’t feel safe, can the most social animal feel that? We human are more cultured and our fights are more dignified. We need to feel safe to rise ahead and make ways for the illuminating the human like a star in a sky. The most communicative animal need to feel the safe, secure and away of fear of endangerment. Only things that comes in our way to rise high is the feeling that this moment we are uncomfortable, agonize the rules of jungle we live. Be the best or you will be kicked. Darwin once said survival of the fittest is the rule of the game. Human have only learnt to fight be it for the space he want to call its own or be it for the survival not be to be eaten by another animals. It’s the degree of fight, striking the fight for the right of yours. So we all are fighter what is meant to be a safe place? Aren’t you feeling absurd? May be because we have civilized our self. We haven’t left our animal instincts. Like a dog we have defined our guidelines and don’t embark on another person territory. Our boundaries have been defined. We take care not to interweave our threads and not step on another man’s foot. Everything would been so peaceful and serene if all followed rules. Like a mad animal are thrown of the assembly, we defined our moral policing and managed the rowdy people. We have our law and ways to handle the things. Isn’t what we have learnt from the animal kingdom to make space for each other and still carve a niche for ourselves? That’s what panchantra stories have taught us. Be smart enough to survive but still not killing other for your own good. We are only safe as much we make others to be safe in this place. Let the soul feel so safe and secure and we attain self-actualization rather than meeting some petty needs. It’s time we help our follow co-passenger accomplish bigger things in small world. Let the confidence of the all people be on the rise.

BE SAFE should be the motto we adopt this season for all the reasons. 

Celebrate Life

Today I am celebrating life for no reason

Every day I put my best smile to greet each season

At Bay, I keep all strife for all occasion

With Ray of Light, I let Elixir of life to lead its foundation

At Sight of fight, I strife with knife for each lesion

With Bright sunlight, I replay all high five to completion

At Dusk, Way of life to guide to its formation

With moonlight, I let beacon to shine in all direction

Today I am celebrating life for no reason

Every day I put my best smile to greet each season

In winters, I let bonfire of happiness snug me

In spring, I desire the innocence of nature hug me

In summer, I make sunshine my attire to bug me

In autumn, I cease fire with swim in sea of love to tug me

Today I am celebrating life for no reason

Every day I put my best smile to greet each season

Right Away, I request everyone to celebrate life for no reason

Every day put your best smile to greet each season to make it great

Womanhood redefined in 2014

Idea of this post came first time heard the monologue by kalki Koechlin and our most cherished day as Women’s day. Somehow that day passed without any word to my kitty. Suddenly Queen with her independent carefree struck my mind for a long to urge me even till date to write . May be it’s the effect of “K” alphabet Empress to make us feel sometimes entangled in worldly society and sometimes to make us feel empowered to break the society norms and “Live Life Queen Size”.

Suddenly I recognized that both have wanted to make us feel beautiful even after the struggle, our ancestors have gone through. One using the lethal words and advising us to fight for own justice. Another letting us remember that no matter what may happen we need to remain happiness.

Kalki with her analytical mind went on made us remember that we are the second to Man and maybe that’s why we are called woman. How far we have come when we wouldn’t have a single chance to survive. But still asking to ponder whether we have a far way or still we are in tunnel without a ray of hope to see light. We still live in cliché and define woman with colour coding. Isn’t it time we realize that we willn’t have any princess charming to rescue ourselves and atleast we as woman shouldn’t be judging other woman on how she dresses up, stand up. Let the woman next to you be herself and not be judged by prejudice of the society. She even goes to extend to explain to mankind that “All Man have nice intentions for their woman and want them to feel like princess “. But isn’t time she feels like a Queen and have her basic rights of freedom and cared. Let her wear grace of dignity of thought for the day.

Queen or the Kanganna made feel just qualified to be a woman who has strength to handle each circumstances like a true queen will. She is settled and knows to challenges the status quo without being rude. She goes through her low points when her fiancé dishonor their relationship just 2 days before marriage. She is fragile and weak to the point where she feels the pain of being rejected but not to extend to ruin her whole life. She is so strong that She decides to go on her honeymoon alone. Her parents doesn’t crib much thinking that she may be feel better. Story has a new beginning where rani learns and tries new thing be it making new friends, learning to dance carefreely but still not changing who she is internally.

Both have made me realize that we as woman or female are strong. No matter how things turns out to be we can always strike back to life and remain happiness amidst all sadness and rough patch of life. Its time we stop beggaring other woman rather paveway path for all of us. And gentle request to all the GentleMen encourage ladies in your life to feel the freedom and equality. Ladies when we get such chances don’t fight, don’t scream but let ourselves be assertive in honorable voice.

Oye woman you are a woman

Show the world a person who is mature

Its time world be assured of your demure

Let your voice be alluring the place of secure

Let the mankind be so pure

Oye Woman you are a woman

Don’t let other woman endure the pain

Let bygone be bygone and break the chain

Don’t let the other women be abstained

Oye Woman you are a woman

Don’t become the cushion for rookie

Don’t make the attire your footage

Wear the luring mind

Oye Woman you are a woman

So pure so securing so reassuring so caring

Oye woman you are a woman

World looking to inspiring beauty

 Oye woman be a woman not a man and love yourself each second each moment