We were meant to be

You were the one who taught me the meaning of the friendship

You were the one who taught me the meaning of caring

You were the one who taught me the meaning of sharing

You were the one who taught me the meaning of keeping faith in God

You were the one who taught me the meaning of living the life

You were the one who taught me the meaning of calm in chaos

May be that’s why I like being around you

May be that’s why I find your way in all troubles

May be that’s why I search for you

May be that’s why I belong to you

We were every percent true to the heart

We were every inch growing fonder of each other

We were meant to be

Let’s dance to celebrate womanhood

Today while writing on and for women I am thinking what else to write which hasn’t been written through either “Womanhood redefined in 2014”    and “Black Pearl”.  But suddenly I watched the video of the Aditi rao. Something about the music and the way she dances on the beat she touched me a lot

Among all the madness of the world around me just subsided for those 3 minutes and 24  seconds while  how she handles why talk about the past ?

 The way she describes it is so well that we women dwell too much on past, history, mistakes, regrets and . We keep on  playing the  bygone again and again in our head like movie on loop .

When she says that I have decided to be a product of what is written and talked about. I have the power to  choose to be who I want to be it just hits my mind and soul that I feel like hugging her for being the woman she is. She has put her message that why should anybody ‘s story be written in past when we are still in the process of becoming

I want really to pass this message this on Woman’s day . I want to celebrate this woman’s day by celebrating the womanhood . I want to celebrate the day by celebrating me. This blog just one medium to request all the other women to do so. I feel so light today that  I feel like dancing to the song being played in the background

I always say that relationship we have with the people around us defines but strangely I have forgotten to articulate in any of the earlier blogs that if we have to learn to love ourselves. No bad relationship can define you unless you let define you. I want to say today like before selecting the chair we go through the process of  picking and choosing it why can’t we be selfish enough for the people who enter our inner circle. Weak people will keep on giving you logic about why your chosen path is not right but you have to learn to move past them.  You will might meet some coward who don’t have the courage to speak their mind or even truth . You will meet some worthless girls who might want to snatch your men. But trust me if he was yours you don’t have to fight for him . He wasn’t yours end of story . If he was yours you would be spending the time on the shores of the sea still not able to hear any of voice apart from the heartbeart of you both. Also some of those worthless immature girls  might be married and still not satisfied in their marriage. But girl was meant to be like that. Why bother? Look your life is not dependent on those people because trust me best revenge you can take with both such characters is let them be together and without your presence they will look for another drama in their lives. Learn to walk away. Relationships happen when you both have desire to stick together through thick and thins. If they had to be together either of them will not look outside their own relationship.

Your journey is dependent on people who will love you unconditionally. Was Alia bothered about kunal in Dear Zindagi ? She learnt even for her career she never needed him. Trust the Almighty he has written a beautiful story for you.  Alia surrounded herself with people who could see her inner beauty. Remember these some mean people are helping you define the black pearl of yours .Full Stop. You are in the process of making not many people can be strong enough to take life head on.

Learn to love yourself . Give yourself respect. People will be bad and mean,  you have to be polite and smart enough to learn to give yourself the dignity of being the woman. You can’t expect strength from weak people . You have to be the woman who knows that she is in the process of defining her destiny. Women who gives  love, care and respect freely. Alia was surrounded by right people when she resolved her inner conflicts . This woman day promise to resolve your own inner conflict and move further in life. When pain inflicted upon yourself by the society or your thought process you  have to learn to move further after learning the lesson.  

At the end I will only say let’s dance to celebrate womanhood and ourselves

Woman let yourself be  submerged  in the dance of your own inner beauty

Woman let yourself be guided by the your smile of shine

Woman let yourself be one who is saluted for her demeanour

Woman let yourself be one who is ray of hope to mankind

Woman let yourself be one who is respected for intelligence

Woman let yourself be one who is brilliance can’t be robed

Woman let yourself be one who is walks her talk

Woman let yourself be one who is caring yet not fragile

Woman let yourself be one who is trusting yet not naive

Woman let yourself be one who is source of inspiration for generation to come

Darwin’s Delay – Unprecedented wait

When I first heard about the Darwin’s Delay theory I couldn’t believe my eyes when reading the article Darwin’s Delay and the guy who gave the theory of the survival of the fittest had the fear. It was mentioned that he couldn’t publish his theory until situation called for it for 20 years.  He had the fear was released through the dream analysis in which ‘a person was hung & came to life’ as not about a third person, as Darwin recorded in his notebook, but actually, in a Freudian sense, about Darwin himself because of his ‘fear of dire punishment for thinking’ by Geuter. Somehow this fact was hided from common people for long time  saying he was patient data collector. But whatever has been said I Still believe  if Charles hadn’t gone the fear himself how would we have the fear has a biological basis, when he noted that nearly all animals exhibit fear in the same manner. How the Fear conditioning happens. If you don’t agree fear of unknown and how people will behave on his theory. I felt  like saying this to him“Duniya to kehti hai, kehti reh jaayegiKhud jo na samjhegi, tumko samjhayegi”

World would have known the what we know today if he had been brave enough  If somebody has understand how people react to unknown we can understand it through the short story of “The Dancing Fool” of Zog –A flying saucer creature named Zog arrived on Earth to explain how wars could be prevented and how cancer could be cured. He brought the information from Margo, a planet where the natives conversed by means of farts and tap dancing.Zog landed at night in Connectitut. He had no sooner touched down than he saw a house on fire. He rushed into the house, farting and tap dancing, warning the people about the terrible danger they were in. The head of the house brained Zog with a golf club. But does that mean that we should leave something because we are fearful of the what our peers will say. If this was the case we might not had the famous theories given by Charles himself. He wouldn’t have been who he was so sometimes we might have the fear of vast opposition especially in our environment be it office, home when we stand for what we believe in and against the set society’s norm. So, do you want to miss the chance of being the next Charles ‘s . But I will profess anybody to enter the land of unknowns without much calculated risks like climbing of the mountains. Let’s assume we want to part of the herd even though we have the capability to do that. I know fear can weakens and paralyzes us but if we had a to die , do you want to die with a heavy heart that you could have achieved more but couldn’t do so. It will be too late, whenever you are in doubt what to do  just remember if this is the last day of your life how will you react ? Do you want to be remembered as person who did what was right for him . It’s not only for the work we do, this is for the relationship this Gen- Z is going through as well. For instant gratification half of the people are in relationships, marriage in which they don’t understand the emotionally and mental space the other person is in. I am not saying them to wait but if you don’t try chairs you will not be sure which one to buy but don’t choose the chair which doesn’t fight your personality to be part of liking the popular . Strangely they have constipation even when they love somebody they can’t express it easilyFor relationships I believe in one fundaRishto woh rishta hai jisme bandhan na hoDil mein tammana ho warna dhadkan na ho This in simple language just means that we might have some fears of being left alone but trust me the best relationships are those which are based on the heart but there is no restriction. You connect because you both want not because it’s age, it’s your parent want or somebody else is getting married etc or any lame excuse . Moment we learn to do what we want to do with full heart we will not be worried about society , people around us be it daily life hassles . This society as mentioned earlier will keep on saying and teaching you things even which they can’t follow. Learn to love yourself and stop procrastination since world is waiting for the another Darwin theory not the Darwin’s Delay 

Blind Herd Behaviour & Standing Alone

Strangely we live in the society where herd behaviour is being forced upon us. Before moving further let me explain you why Herd behaviour describes how individuals in a group can act collectively without centralized direction. The term can refer to the behaviour of animals in herds, packs, bird flocks, fish schools and so on,. We are even scared to be different from our pack since we will not be entertained so much by other pack. sometimes its important to maintain the herd behaviour since we want the decorum in the society to be maintained. Some basic essence needs to be there in the society for remaining free from crime and basic things to progress in right manner. But somewhere we have lost the individuality. We have stopped speaking our minds to confirm to the herd behaviour. Do we know our choices ? Let me think we study either of 1) Doctor 2) Law 3) Engineering. For higher studies either it can be law. Rest if kids don't follow this category they will be called useless even if they have potential to be multi millionaire but somebody rightly said intellectuals can never be understood by common people but they will have their own insecurities to bring you down. During the group forming stages you will also understand that during 5 stages of group formation of Forming, ,Storming, Norming , Performing and Adjourning. People who don't follow the norm of the group are left alone and can't go further in the performing stage. So its just an innate need of the people to form the herd and those who are not they will try to align them by name saying or ignoring such people to weaken them by their mind. But do people who have an opinion of their own would be bothered by such behaviour. If yes, then they will part of herd. And there are instances where Herd have become the mob and shown the episodes of the humans in demonstrations, riots and general strikes. The concept of the mob was first identified by French psychologists Gabriel Tarde and Gustave Le Bon. There have been instances where crowd which has  gather on behalf of a grievance can involve herding behavior that turns violent, particularly when confronted by an opposing ethnic or racial group. The Los Angeles riots of 1992, New York Draft Riots are some of the Mob behaviour infamous in US. Gujarat riots in 1969, 2002 are some of the examples of the same. So, if I have to describe whether herd behaviour is good or not. I will always say it will be nice if the mob behaviour will align with the righteous path. If its not the righteous path , please become the leader  and have strength in the vocal cord to put forward your point. Because somewhere today only I read to avoid unnecessary emotional drama in your life when you will be fighting against the herd mind-set be prepared to Become BAD once if staying GOOD always is not helping you. When I said bad , I meant people will start calling you bad for even the righteous behaviour.

So be part of herd till you are on righteous path for your financial, physical and emotional well being else enjoy the journey where you be name called as BAD by the mob :-P

God sent His Angel to brighten my life

I met you at a time when only darkness was surrounding me

I met you at a time when circumstances made us lose faith in Almighty

I met you at a time when God was forgotten by folks around me

 

You were the sparkling light in that darkness

You spread the positive energy to confiscate pessimism

I was spellbound by the way you honed my passion

 

Life became another celebration amidst all crisis

Love for life was the only energy which surrounded us

Optimism and Smile never faded from our life

 

Your presence changed me for better

Your being flourished the child in me

Your company made me have only one passion now i.e. life

 

I kept thanking my stars for your existence

I kept looking for sunrise to meet you

I kept waiting for moonlight to hear your heart out

 

We became lover from just acquaintance in few months

With Some twist in our destiny

We became strangers from diehard aficionados’ in a second

 

Our parts may not cross again

But Forevermore, I will carry the your love in my heart

I will forever love life

 

Thanks for being my Angel when God was forgotten

Thanks for making me forevermore love life

Thanks for polishing only truly passion life

 

 

Sunshine of my smile

You are shine of my smile

Your every breath is mine

You are the shrine I belong

You are chine of our world

You love is red wine

You presence redefine my life

I hate any grapevine surrounding us

I hate every tagline every swine gives us

I hate whining around us

I hate every vine confining us

With every knock you are my guideline

With you I am on cloud nine

Bottom line is you are my lifeline

You are shine of my smile

Black Coffee with pinch of Salt

Black Coffee fad has risen expediently like rock music with the beer in hand to sound cool. Black coffee is like latest Dilwale movie kind of romance where you don’t feel any depth in emotions. People spend time because dating is in fashion. People of my generation will say wtf? We have innate sense that beyond a point we can’t even abuse. But whom are we talking about? Generation of instant gratification is only focussed on anything that seems cool be it about boozing around or relationship status. How does your relationship status define you but how many of can get to know that if you haven’t seen what the real relationship should be? Imagine Cady is back to USA after her African safari trip to be surrounded by plastics she treats everybody as friends. Only to be finding in the end that they were having snake venom ready to bite her. Why plastics allowed her to be around them because they were insecure and Cady take her place. Just are the relationship Black coffee has seen and considered going out as relationship. I call them black coffee because coffee is the most liberating thing which can help you to survive lot of diseases like dementia but people without researching go for black coffee in excess and end up with acidity and sometimes early death. Anytime you can’t handle anything and take it without implications of it, you act like a Black Coffee vinyl. Be it time with your alone self. Love will always be in fashion but never dating, dating is just means to find love but time pass affairs are not. When you learn to find balance in life within yourself you will attract the right kind of coffee with which you can enhance longevity. I am not against coffee drinking but only after knowing what balanced quantity is and how to be taken.  Like love, love coffee as fresh breath of air which just simulates the creativity in soul. If you are drinking black coffee take it pinch of salt and at your own risk because accidents at bad seat does more harm.