Tere Saath

Tere saath or mere haath me haar lambha haseen ho jata tha

Tere chehre ke noor se suraj roshani meri aankono ko dhundladeti thi

Tere Aankho ke chamak se yeh raat jagmati thi

Ab toh yeh alamb hai meri aankho ke moti se hi barisey hoti hai

Kabhi teri yaad aa gaye kuch lambho ke liye ek toofan se jooj leti hue

Ab sone se bhi darr lagta hai kahi sapne me hi main toot jao

Alpha Female : How to Identify her ?

It has been very interesting to understand human behaviour and its follicles . Life is never about black and white. It’s always about some grey’s . But this seemed to me an interesting topic for professional topic what happens when we have a female alpha in a team.

When I studied various group I realized that there must be at least one alpha female. But starting to explain more on the topic . let’s understand who is the alpha women . Alpha women is not the one who is most attractive , powerful or domineering woman but alpha woman is the one who is the natural leader of the group of females . It is very strange that as females we have been mentally structured either to accept  an alpha female or become an alpha female. This has been captured beautifully by Wayne Drane how females have been brought up to cooperate even in adverse situations.

We as females are groomed that to share , cooperate and play fair. They are strong to adapt to the situation . So in short females have been brought to either take up the position of alpha female or follow the alpha female. There is one un/spoken leader in a  group of females . All females follow the alpha social grace in the society. Other follow the social clues of the alphas. Alphaness is the degree of the leadership quality . Alpha females are social conductors while others are orchestra  and help to navigate the business meetings. In a group of the females , if you alpha woman leaves nobody knows what to do . Rest woman are left on their own and even men in that group don’t know .  If there are no alpha woman the discussion will become boring and weird . But let’s assume when we have 2 alpha women in the team , both will fight and may be turn out to be the cat fight . This was the turning point when I started to write the blog where I got to realize that if a new alpha woman join the group where there is an already an alpha woman , new alpha woman has to mellow down or she will be kicked out pretty soon. Reason is simple group dynamics get disturbed  when  two alpha females competing to be the social conductor and non-alpha females aren’t sure whom to follow. If the old alpha woman has strong hold on the environment and people , new alpha woman ‘s alphaness will not work and ultimately she will move where she will be appreciated and admired .Strangely it is not the woman who are scared of alpha woman but alpha man are scared of the alpha female since she has more social grace in business world .

So no matter what you believe you can’t live with alpha female and you can use her to advantage rather than making her your enemy 

P.S.:- This blog was driven by the scenario which I recently observed and wanted to pen down ... Next I will write how to increase the alphaness in you  

Take last leg is most important leg to take

This blog is created while traveling alone to sweden. There has been times when this alone time gives me soul searching and today is one of them. we as humans have so much clustered in our mind that we forget to see the clearer picture in life. It stuck me when I was up in the air there was bright sun shining @ 8.30 pm CET also while from where I started it was raining heavily, everything surrounded by clouds. when you head towards your destination things will clear out for sure. but before doing so we need to have patience to go against the wind and stand tall. The view at top is so scenic that you will not regret any struggle in your journey. Your journey is your own adventure ride but some can be calculated risks like parasailing where probability of failure is .01%.. So take small steps where you want to head but keep moving ahead and you will build a new kind of confidence in yourself.

Twist from universe

While walking in the jungle of her thoughts on a dark alley , Kiara put a brake on her running shoes. She must have seen a ghost anyone could have guessed? She had just seen a dark catty eye cat crossing her path. She was trying to calm her mind without entering the memory lane . But memory lane is the alley you enter with realizing it. Suddenly,  she realized what her friend has told her 2 months back in coffee shop  cats are the spiritual creatures . They are God sent angel’s to show message from heaven to humans when they are lost. She took the walk to forgot about him only to be reminded about him. Taking universe’s clue ,she took the phone from her jacket . She dialled a  number from her address book

Kiara : Hi

Him : Hi. What happened ? Why are you panting ?

Kiara : I will explain you but first thank you to pick up the call

She started to explain what has just happened

Kiara with sigh  fumbling with her words I think ....(thinking what to say)

Him : We can’t live apart for long

Kiara : I agee

Him : Let’s catch up tomorrow at coffee shop @ 8 PM our favourite table

Kiara : See you tomorrow

 

P.S.:- This one was part of exercise on symbolic animal.

Wish people take decision based on emotions and real life will be so easy as writing as it

Mango fruity : Love : Understanding : Companionship

I could never nail why falling in love is so easy  after watching Shah Rukh Khan . Why all the women love him so much. Somewhere I have written a blog for about it but it doesn’t do the justice . With every bit of SRK in new movie there is part of me which wants to believe in love because of him. The honesty in his eyes just makes say awe, he must be loving the women  so madly. You believe the depth in his eyes. But aren’t other actors doing the same . Imagine somebody saying if I have given commitment, they will never break but does that attract any gal ? Lot of time when those lines are spoken apart from SRK you feel it’s coming from an ego state  not loving state. His earnest is most felt when a woman understands his emotions. Strangely somewhere I heard SRK mentioning that all love stories were beautiful because woman’s emotions were empowered . I couldn’t agree to him more , all love stories were from the standpoint of a woman . Woman who were fearless in matter of love be it simran , sejal , akira , Anjali . They might have some inner turmoil but they emotions can be felt . SRK is just there to understand them better . So nailing word of the romance that we all should be looking is understanding. Be it the guy or a gal we all are searching for somebody who understands us. Good amount of the both gender now a days are capable enough to  lead a single life easily . But what they are looking for , to be with somebody who can be understanding towards their journey. So, as a relationship coach when you stop looking for what others can give you but what you can give to them . You can be understanding of their journey , you will be attracting a companion for a life rather than somebody based on infatuation. Start to understand others by putting yourself in their shoes but that doesn’t mean that you to stick with wrong partner . You have to come from a loving space and let that love flow. But for all those things to happen you have first love yourself . Motto in life should be love should be essence of your being not an extension or mask you wear. Moment that happens everything in universe will fall in its place   I will be leaving this blog here and going to watch the depth of eyes of  love and will come back with review of Jab Harry met Sejal . Hope my mango fruity doesn’t disappoint me because after a long I feel like watching him. His eyes can stop my world without me thinking from my senses.

Unrequited Love : Not Really!!! Love Yourself And Let Divine Timing Show what's yours

Lot has been written about the unrequited love. Strangely even as a poetess and writer, I have written the stories , poem  to the same because it’s one of the most talked topic . What my search as a coach has brought me  bewildered my brain. Imagine we as soul choose whatever happens to us not from the thought  process we have from 3 years of childhood but we as soul choose our parents to inflict on us whatever is happening. Whatever our soul has to learn in this world , soul chooses the people which will give us those experiences in form of the parents we select. I knew that we conspire whatever good or bad happens to us. Lack of self-love and self- worth is the key reason for all the bad things that happens to us. But what blew my mind was we as soul choose our parents .The lesson we are here on the earth to experience can be achieved through the parents who will provide us the same .Our self-worth and how we will react is determined by the encounter we have been raised till the age of 5 years determine our future . if your parents criticised for every mistake so when you grow and face an challenge instead to handle yourself with love and learn from it , you will find yourself talking in demeaning manner about yourself. But if the universe has conspired us to face this , is there any way we can achieve the potential we have or we are struck with it once for all? If we are able to identify the pattern we have been following , why can’t we break it ? Isn’t not possible ? But if so then why so many people struggle ? If I go to astrology people will be able to find out about this during their Saturn coming between the age of 28 -32 and another cycle around 60 years .Saturn return is nothing but the time when the planet of judgement comes over the position which was their during the birth chart , time when you become mature as per astrology . Every 30 years Saturn provides an opportunity where your soul can be rebirth by purifying yourself. Purification process  for any precious thing be it  diamond or gold it takes it come from extreme pressure. So, for even the humans this process will not be easy. It will break your ego , you will embark on the journey where whatever you value might be taken away from you. You will be humble by the end of this process but will be trusting in this process. Why  I am mentioning about the astrology? Because the science which is considered a superstition , also mentions that human has the opportunity to grow and unlearn what he has been learnt to better ourselves. Now imagine you are just the true believer of actions and that everything is energy. Our experiences are nothing but whatever is present in our Vortex. I remember listening to Iyanla Vanzant where she mentions that there was a time when there was huge cake and other kids could have as many pieces as they liked  but still she thought she never deserves the cake so  she never received it. That was one example of it. Everything is within your vortex nothing can be taken away from you. If you thing grieve will surround you when a lover is gone . Please be precise why are you grieving ? Is it the love that he/she showered on you is lost ? Then don’t be he/she could only shower the love which you have within your vortex for yourself. What is yours can’t be taken away from you. If you are the charming person you will attract the other charming people in your life may be having the intent in their heart for you. Nobody in life gives you more than you think you deserve. Only thing that might have irritated you about the partner is the thing which needs to be improved upon. You don’t meet people by chance . You meet them either for a reason, season or lifetime. Your lover who path breaks apart are those who meet you for a reason. Reason being to groom your nature. It’s an opportunity to enhance yourself. Bless that person and move on. If they are meant to be there in your life , they will come back . if not, your energies will attract someone better. Whether the interaction was good or bad but it leads to improve yourself so be it . If that person has cheated on you, bless them because how lucky you are because of them you can realize what your current vortex might be attracting.

Rendezvous you are going to have with next partner who comes for a lifetime will not have any fear of you losing them since your focus will be on how we can make a better life. But yes if you keep focusing on I don’t want them to cheat on me , lie to me . You are sending the message to them and universe that builds up only the negative vortex focusing on cheating and lying. If your vortex is filled of such emotions instead of love, you will attract people who will cheat , lie and you will be an loop. After so many encounters you will either lose your worth or lose hope. Both is not required what is required is writing qualities about the person whom you want to attract. Write how you feel  but a word of caution if you think about being dependent on other person , you will attract somebody you will not treat you right because you are looking for comfort others. Affirmations have positive message like “Me and my partner both feel liking coming to home , sharing our life “ .Everything will unravel in its divine timing . Trust the divine timing. I had started this blog way back when I read You Can Heal your Life - Louise L. Hay in June end. I couldn’t find words to describe my feelings on the topic, something would be missing. Strangely when a saw rainbow I was sure something positive is on its way. And this message needs to be passed on the people

HAPPY LOVING YOURSELF  REST EVERYTHING WILL ALWAYS FALL INTO ITS PLACE IN DIVINE TIMING

Energies : Universe works on the vibrations we sent to it

Somebody way back told me that we are energy bodies. The vibrations we sent it to universe is what we get back . Someone said what we seek is seeking us . We are not just the physical bodies we are the energy bodies ,if you are able to talk to somebody your and their energy bodies are at same level. These phrases were spoken to me way back in 2012. May be my mind was immature for such profound information at that time. But destiny had its sweet way to explain this to me. Some people learn it when other explain but I believe me I am one of those who learn it from my own mistakes. I shouldn’t be cribbing about it since I am still on my journey to learn which is must for the growth. The demonstration of this was achieved when I was suffering from strange wisdom toothache that my ear, head and everything on right side was aching , one of my friends gave me the hand of Fatima bracelet. Such was the omen and timing of the bracelet that may be the vibrations I was sending to the universe was of a weak soul that the energies of Fatima of patience was really required. The person who said about the vibrations had also mentioned to me all the stones etc we wear should be worn for specified time. When it has achieve its purpose either the stone will be lost or broken . You don’t have to alarmed about it but rather feel the purpose has been fulfilled . But I didn’t remembered the same line when my bracelet was broken without any purpose. So was my alarmed mind that I had ordered the another Fatima hand immediately but destiny is bigger than what we thought the distributor tried to send the amulet twice even when address was right it wasn’t delivered and  even after dedicated persuasion for 2 weeks we weren’t able to track it.  Finally my money was returned. That was turning point when I went back to my friend to get answers why all this occurred . But before writing an article I dig deep into this theory . It was similar to the fact that if I was vibrating at same frequency of the coffee I would have attracted cup of coffee in my life at that moment. If you are vibrating the energy of the person whom you haven’t met for a long time , you will strangely find that these people will contact you randomly either through an electronic/digital medium or catchup randomly . So the people you meet in your life always come for a reason and when some of the people reasons have been met they leave your life . Instead to get hooked up or attached you should let me go and realize the lesson they have shared with us. A man is only animal who can learn and grow but  require lot of support .You can leave dog and if he is given food he can survive while for the human he requires lot of love ,sometimes his ego needs to be fed.  If that is the case let us utilize your thinking ability to grow each day rather than pondering why me ? Learn to ask the right questions from the universe and universe will help you survive . if you ask whose fault is it ? You will get the answer but even in friendship it is a two-way street and both people are equally involved.Its both people fault and not an individual. You will get that answer even when you ask what is universe trying to teach me ? How to get better from here . Life is a journey and where we are learning each moment . Your attitude will decide how you perceive life . With time you will be sending the positive vibes, vibrations, gut whatever you want to call but whatever energies we send to universe we will get the same in the return not from lips but we feel /think at subconscious level.