This blog is created while traveling alone to sweden. There has been times when this alone time gives me soul searching and today is one of them. we as humans have so much clustered in our mind that we forget to see the clearer picture in life. It stuck me when I was up in the air there was bright sun shining @ 8.30 pm CET also while from where I started it was raining heavily, everything surrounded by clouds. when you head towards your destination things will clear out for sure. but before doing so we need to have patience to go against the wind and stand tall. The view at top is so scenic that you will not regret any struggle in your journey. Your journey is your own adventure ride but some can be calculated risks like parasailing where probability of failure is .01%.. So take small steps where you want to head but keep moving ahead and you will build a new kind of confidence in yourself.
When you know that you have hit the bottom then either you can shit at bottom surrounded by shit or use your mind to rise higher. Our mind is more powerful than we think
Saturday, 21 October 2017
Thursday, 24 August 2017
Twist from universe
While
walking in the jungle of her thoughts on a dark alley , Kiara put a brake on
her running shoes. She must have seen a ghost anyone could have guessed? She
had just seen a dark catty eye cat crossing her path. She was trying to calm
her mind without entering the memory lane . But memory lane is the alley you
enter with realizing it. Suddenly, she
realized what her friend has told her 2 months back in coffee shop cats are the spiritual creatures . They are
God sent angel’s to show message from heaven to humans when they are lost. She
took the walk to forgot about him only to be reminded about him. Taking
universe’s clue ,she took the phone from her jacket . She dialled a number from her address book
Kiara : Hi
Him : Hi.
What happened ? Why are you panting ?
Kiara : I
will explain you but first thank you to pick up the call
She started
to explain what has just happened
Kiara with
sigh fumbling with her words I think ....(thinking what to say)
Him : We
can’t live apart for long
Kiara : I
agee
Him : Let’s
catch up tomorrow at coffee shop @ 8 PM our favourite table
Kiara : See
you tomorrow
P.S.:- This one was part of exercise on symbolic animal.
Wish people take decision based on emotions and real life will be so easy as writing as it
Friday, 4 August 2017
Mango fruity : Love : Understanding : Companionship
I could
never nail why falling in love is so easy
after watching Shah Rukh Khan . Why all the women love him so much.
Somewhere I have written a blog for about it but it doesn’t do the justice .
With every bit of SRK in new movie there is part of me which wants to believe
in love because of him. The honesty in his eyes just makes say awe, he must be
loving the women so madly. You believe
the depth in his eyes. But aren’t other actors doing the same . Imagine somebody
saying if I have given commitment, they will never break but does that attract
any gal ? Lot of time when those lines are spoken apart from SRK you feel it’s
coming from an ego state not loving state.
His earnest is most felt when a woman understands his emotions. Strangely
somewhere I heard SRK mentioning that all love stories were beautiful because
woman’s emotions were empowered . I couldn’t agree to him more , all love
stories were from the standpoint of a woman . Woman who were fearless in matter
of love be it simran , sejal , akira , Anjali . They might have some inner turmoil
but they emotions can be felt . SRK is just there to understand them better .
So nailing word of the romance that we all should be looking is understanding.
Be it the guy or a gal we all are searching for somebody who understands us.
Good amount of the both gender now a days are capable enough to lead a single life easily . But what they are
looking for , to be with somebody who can be understanding towards their
journey. So, as a relationship coach when you stop looking for what others can
give you but what you can give to them . You can be understanding of their
journey , you will be attracting a companion for a life rather than somebody
based on infatuation. Start to understand others by putting yourself in their
shoes but that doesn’t mean that you to stick with wrong partner . You have to
come from a loving space and let that love flow. But for all those things to
happen you have first love yourself . Motto in life should be love should be
essence of your being not an extension or mask you wear. Moment that happens
everything in universe will fall in its place I will
be leaving this blog here and going to watch the depth of eyes of love and will come back with review of Jab
Harry met Sejal . Hope my mango fruity doesn’t disappoint me because after a
long I feel like watching him. His eyes can stop my world without me thinking from my senses.
Tuesday, 25 July 2017
Unrequited Love : Not Really!!! Love Yourself And Let Divine Timing Show what's yours
Lot has
been written about the unrequited love. Strangely even as a poetess and writer,
I have written the stories , poem to the
same because it’s one of the most talked topic . What my search as a coach has
brought me bewildered my brain. Imagine
we as soul choose whatever happens to us not from the thought process we have from 3 years of childhood but
we as soul choose our parents to inflict on us whatever is happening. Whatever our
soul has to learn in this world , soul chooses the people which will give us
those experiences in form of the parents we select. I knew that we conspire
whatever good or bad happens to us. Lack of self-love and self- worth is the
key reason for all the bad things that happens to us. But what blew my mind was
we as soul choose our parents .The lesson we are here on the earth to
experience can be achieved through the parents who will provide us the same
.Our self-worth and how we will react is determined by the encounter we have
been raised till the age of 5 years determine our future . if your parents
criticised for every mistake so when you grow and face an challenge instead to
handle yourself with love and learn from it , you will find yourself talking in
demeaning manner about yourself. But if the universe has conspired us to face
this , is there any way we can achieve the potential we have or we are struck
with it once for all? If we are able to identify the pattern we have been
following , why can’t we break it ? Isn’t not possible ? But if so then why so
many people struggle ? If I go to astrology people will be able to find out
about this during their Saturn coming between the age of 28 -32 and another
cycle around 60 years .Saturn return is nothing but the time when the planet of
judgement comes over the position which was their during the birth chart , time
when you become mature as per astrology . Every 30 years Saturn provides an
opportunity where your soul can be rebirth by purifying yourself. Purification
process for any precious thing be it diamond or gold it takes it come from extreme
pressure. So, for even the humans this process will not be easy. It will break
your ego , you will embark on the journey where whatever you value might be taken
away from you. You will be humble by the end of this process but will be
trusting in this process. Why I am
mentioning about the astrology? Because the science which is considered a superstition
, also mentions that human has the opportunity to grow and unlearn what he has been
learnt to better ourselves. Now imagine you are just the true believer of
actions and that everything is energy. Our experiences are nothing but whatever
is present in our Vortex. I remember listening to Iyanla Vanzant where she
mentions that there was a time when there was huge cake and other kids could
have as many pieces as they liked but
still she thought she never deserves the cake so she never received it. That was one example of
it. Everything is within your vortex nothing can be taken away from you. If you
thing grieve will surround you when a lover is gone . Please be precise why are
you grieving ? Is it the love that he/she showered on you is lost ? Then don’t
be he/she could only shower the love which you have within your vortex for
yourself. What is yours can’t be taken away from you. If you are the charming
person you will attract the other charming people in your life may be having
the intent in their heart for you. Nobody in life gives you more than you think
you deserve. Only thing that might have irritated you about the partner is the
thing which needs to be improved upon. You don’t meet people by chance . You
meet them either for a reason, season or lifetime. Your lover who path breaks
apart are those who meet you for a reason. Reason being to groom your nature. It’s
an opportunity to enhance yourself. Bless that person and move on. If they are
meant to be there in your life , they will come back . if not, your energies
will attract someone better. Whether the interaction was good or bad but it
leads to improve yourself so be it . If that person has cheated on you, bless
them because how lucky you are because of them you can realize what your current vortex might be
attracting.
Rendezvous
you are going to have with next partner who comes for a lifetime will not have
any fear of you losing them since your focus will be on how we can make a
better life. But yes if you keep focusing on I don’t want them to cheat on me ,
lie to me . You are sending the message to them and universe that builds up
only the negative vortex focusing on cheating and lying. If your vortex is
filled of such emotions instead of love, you will attract people who will cheat
, lie and you will be an loop. After so many encounters you will either lose
your worth or lose hope. Both is not required what is required is writing
qualities about the person whom you want to attract. Write how you feel but a word of caution if you think about
being dependent on other person , you will attract somebody you will not treat
you right because you are looking for comfort others. Affirmations have
positive message like “Me and my partner both feel liking coming to home ,
sharing our life “ .Everything will unravel in its divine timing . Trust the
divine timing. I had started this blog way back when I read You Can Heal your
Life - Louise L. Hay in June end. I couldn’t find words to describe my feelings
on the topic, something would be missing. Strangely when a saw rainbow I was
sure something positive is on its way. And this message needs to be passed on
the people
HAPPY LOVING YOURSELF REST EVERYTHING WILL ALWAYS FALL INTO ITS PLACE IN DIVINE TIMINGFriday, 23 June 2017
Energies : Universe works on the vibrations we sent to it
Somebody
way back told me that we are energy bodies. The vibrations we sent it to
universe is what we get back . Someone said what we seek is seeking us . We are
not just the physical bodies we are the energy bodies ,if you are able to talk
to somebody your and their energy bodies are at same level. These phrases were
spoken to me way back in 2012. May be my mind was immature for such profound
information at that time. But destiny had its sweet way to explain this to me.
Some people learn it when other explain but I believe me I am one of those who
learn it from my own mistakes. I shouldn’t be cribbing about it since I am
still on my journey to learn which is must for the growth. The demonstration of
this was achieved when I was suffering from strange wisdom toothache that my
ear, head and everything on right side was aching , one of my friends gave me
the hand of Fatima bracelet. Such was the omen and timing of the bracelet that
may be the vibrations I was sending to the universe was of a weak soul that the
energies of Fatima of patience was really required. The person who said about
the vibrations had also mentioned to me all the stones etc we wear should be
worn for specified time. When it has achieve its purpose either the stone will
be lost or broken . You don’t have to alarmed about it but rather feel the
purpose has been fulfilled . But I didn’t remembered the same line when my
bracelet was broken without any purpose. So was my alarmed mind that I had
ordered the another Fatima hand immediately but destiny is bigger than what we
thought the distributor tried to send the amulet twice even when address was
right it wasn’t delivered and even after
dedicated persuasion for 2 weeks we weren’t able to track it. Finally my money was returned. That was turning
point when I went back to my friend to get answers why all this occurred . But
before writing an article I dig deep into this theory . It was similar to the
fact that if I was vibrating at same frequency of the coffee I would have
attracted cup of coffee in my life at that moment. If you are vibrating the
energy of the person whom you haven’t met for a long time , you will strangely
find that these people will contact you randomly either through an
electronic/digital medium or catchup randomly . So the people you meet in your
life always come for a reason and when some of the people reasons have been met
they leave your life . Instead to get hooked up or attached you should let me
go and realize the lesson they have shared with us. A man is only animal who
can learn and grow but require lot of
support .You can leave dog and if he is given food he can survive while for the
human he requires lot of love ,sometimes his ego needs to be fed. If that is the case let us utilize your
thinking ability to grow each day rather than pondering why me ? Learn to ask
the right questions from the universe and universe will help you survive . if
you ask whose fault is it ? You will get the answer but even in friendship it
is a two-way street and both people are equally involved.Its both people fault
and not an individual. You will get that answer even when you ask what is
universe trying to teach me ? How to get better from here . Life is a journey
and where we are learning each moment . Your attitude will decide how you
perceive life . With time you will be sending the positive vibes, vibrations,
gut whatever you want to call but whatever energies we send to universe we will
get the same in the return not from lips but we feel /think at subconscious
level.
Tuesday, 6 June 2017
Two Right Met at Wrong Time : Meant Being Incompatible
As a
previously a relationship coach I come across lot of stories which gives me an
opportunity to learn about human behaviour .Stories are the most powerful way
to pass on the messages. I wanted to
share this story because this is one of the reasons why people aren’t able to
maintain the relationship .This have 2 people Numi ,worldy wise but obsessed
about his needs and Tota who again is
worldy wise but have been a phoenix rising from its ashes after every failure.
This story started because Numi showed interest in Tota. Numi was handsome guy
but he was a philosopher like Rumi missing the understanding of human emotions.
Tota being a gal who was talkative and
more of friend in need kinds thought Numi to be the same. Both showed their
interests with thought process of long term future but we forgot Numi never had
been a long term relationship but more of friend with benefits and not
continuing them beyond few months that too with multi-national gals to avoid
the question of the marriage . Moment it popped up relationship was doomed for
failure. While our Tota was so
different she believed in the relationships for long term but have been cheated
on early on. Both has unresolved issues in their life that they forgot to deal
with while trying to build the castle of their dreams. Numi could not be held
responsible for anything in his life while Tota had been troubled so much that
she used to take everything to her heart and felt responsible for other fault
as well. But why ? is the question. How this relationship was doomed to fail
from start . The spark of the relationship was gone the moment anxious tota was
always looking for reassurance in the relationship while Numi being the
avoidance cater was dreading from the same and he
wasn’t able to take the seriousness of the relationship. Being the peaceful
temperament and in childhood being ignored for his needs he had adopted the
avoidance strategy to deal in the relationships. He had learnt to numb his
emotions while Tota has learnt to be vocal about her emotions and could express
them easily even when emotions run high. But what she couldn’t take was Numi
lying even though she was sure that he is not cheating on tota by meeting his
friend but need to hide arouse because she questioned him. One difficult conversation they both showed their weak side.
Only learning I could suggest was to atleast move out of this for the time
being . Work on yourself . Change the vibrations you are working on. This
anxiety behavior of tota where everytime she looked for care from her guardian
they had left her to the world to take care of tota ,she was paranoid if this was because she did something wrong and she had developed what we
term it as anxiety in all her relationship . Were they to be blamed ? I don’t
think so . They may be two right individual meeting at the wrong time where
they were dealing from fear rather than love . They both are individuals on
their journey to discover the pattern they have formed in the relationships and
to break free them else this will be repeated again and again in their life
even if they get married they would have faced this issue. Path to improve
themselves if they learn is the beginning of bringing the right peaceful
vibrations in the relationship
Will keep
you posted whether they changed their vibrations on path to build a beautiful
relationship or either of them progressed in life
Sunday, 28 May 2017
We were meant to be
You were the one who taught me the meaning of the friendship
You were the one who taught me the meaning of caring
You were the one who taught me the meaning of sharing
You were the one who taught me the meaning of keeping faith in God
You were the one who taught me the meaning of living the life
You were the one who taught me the meaning of calm in chaos
May be that’s why I like being around you
May be that’s why I find your way in all troubles
May be that’s why I search for you
May be that’s why I belong to you
We were every percent true to the heart
We were every inch growing fonder of each other
We were meant to be
Friday, 3 March 2017
Let’s dance to celebrate womanhood
Today while
writing on and for women I am thinking what else to write which hasn’t been
written through either “Womanhood
redefined in 2014” and “Black Pearl”. But suddenly I watched the video of the Aditi
rao. Something about the music and the way she dances on the beat she touched
me a lot
Among all
the madness of the world around me just subsided for those 3 minutes
and 24 seconds while how she handles why talk about the past ?
The way she describes it is so well that we
women dwell too much on past, history, mistakes, regrets and . We keep on playing the bygone again and again in our head like movie
on loop .
When she says
that I have decided to be a product of what is written and talked about. I have
the power to choose to be who I want to
be it just hits my mind and soul that I feel like hugging her for being the
woman she is. She has put her message that why should anybody ‘s story be
written in past when we are still in the process of becoming
I want really
to pass this message this on Woman’s day . I want to celebrate this woman’s day
by celebrating the womanhood . I want to celebrate the day by celebrating me.
This blog just one medium to request all the other women to do so. I feel so
light today that I feel like dancing to
the song being played in the background
I always
say that relationship we have with the people around us defines but strangely I
have forgotten to articulate in any of the earlier blogs that if we have to
learn to love ourselves. No bad relationship can define you unless you let define
you. I want to say today like before selecting the chair we go through the
process of picking and choosing it why
can’t we be selfish enough for the people who enter our inner circle. Weak
people will keep on giving you logic about why your chosen path is not right
but you have to learn to move past them. You will might meet some coward who don’t have
the courage to speak their mind or even truth . You will meet some worthless girls
who might want to snatch your men. But trust me if he was yours you don’t have
to fight for him . He wasn’t yours end of story . If he was yours you would be
spending the time on the shores of the sea still not able to hear any of voice
apart from the heartbeart of you both. Also some of those worthless immature
girls might be married and still not
satisfied in their marriage. But girl was meant to be like that. Why bother?
Look your life is not dependent on those people because trust me best revenge
you can take with both such characters is let them be together and without your
presence they will look for another drama in their lives. Learn to walk away. Relationships
happen when you both have desire to stick together through thick and thins. If
they had to be together either of them will not look outside their own
relationship.
Your
journey is dependent on people who will love you unconditionally. Was Alia bothered
about kunal in Dear Zindagi ? She learnt even for her career she never needed
him. Trust the Almighty he has written a beautiful story for you. Alia surrounded herself with people who could
see her inner beauty. Remember these some mean people are helping you define
the black pearl of yours .Full Stop. You are in the process of making not many
people can be strong enough to take life head on.
Learn to
love yourself . Give yourself respect. People will be bad and mean, you have to be polite and smart enough to
learn to give yourself the dignity of being the woman. You can’t expect
strength from weak people . You have to be the woman who knows that she is in
the process of defining her destiny. Women who gives love, care and respect freely. Alia was
surrounded by right people when she resolved her inner conflicts . This woman
day promise to resolve your own inner conflict and move further in life. When pain
inflicted upon yourself by the society or your thought process you have to learn to move further after learning
the lesson.
At the end
I will only say let’s dance to celebrate womanhood and ourselves
Woman let
yourself be submerged in the dance of your own inner beauty
Woman let
yourself be guided by the your smile of shine
Woman let
yourself be one who is saluted for her demeanour
Woman let
yourself be one who is ray of hope to mankind
Woman let
yourself be one who is respected for intelligence
Woman let
yourself be one who is brilliance can’t be robed
Woman let
yourself be one who is walks her talk
Woman let
yourself be one who is caring yet not fragile
Woman let
yourself be one who is trusting yet not naive
Woman let
yourself be one who is source of inspiration for generation to come
Wednesday, 1 February 2017
Darwin’s Delay – Unprecedented wait
When I
first heard about the Darwin’s Delay theory I couldn’t believe my eyes when
reading the article Darwin’s Delay and the guy who gave the theory of the
survival of the fittest had the fear. It was mentioned that he couldn’t publish
his theory until situation called for it for 20 years. He had the fear was released through the
dream analysis in which ‘a person was hung & came to life’ as not about a
third person, as Darwin recorded in his notebook, but actually, in a Freudian
sense, about Darwin himself because of his ‘fear of dire punishment for
thinking’ by Geuter. Somehow this fact was hided from common people for long
time saying he was patient data
collector. But whatever has been said I Still believe if Charles hadn’t gone the fear himself how
would we have the fear has a biological basis, when he noted that nearly all
animals exhibit fear in the same manner. How the Fear conditioning happens. If
you don’t agree fear of unknown and how people will behave on his theory. I
felt like saying this to him“Duniya to
kehti hai, kehti reh jaayegiKhud jo na samjhegi,
tumko samjhayegi”
World would have known the what we know today if he had been brave enough If somebody has understand
how people react to unknown we can understand it through the short story of “The
Dancing Fool” of Zog –A flying saucer creature named Zog
arrived on Earth to explain how wars could be prevented and how cancer could be
cured. He brought the information from Margo, a planet where the natives conversed
by means of farts and tap dancing.Zog landed at night in Connectitut. He had no sooner touched down than
he saw a house on fire. He rushed into the house, farting and tap dancing,
warning the people about the terrible danger they were in. The head of the
house brained Zog with a golf club. But does that mean that we should leave something because we are fearful
of the what our peers will say. If this was the case we might not had the
famous theories given by Charles himself. He wouldn’t have been who he was so sometimes
we might have the fear of vast opposition especially in our environment be it
office, home when we stand for what we believe in and against the set society’s
norm. So, do you want to miss the chance of being the next Charles ‘s . But I will
profess anybody to enter the land of unknowns without much calculated risks
like climbing of the mountains. Let’s assume we want to part of the herd even though we have the
capability to do that. I know fear can weakens and paralyzes us but if we had a
to die , do you want to die with a heavy heart that you could have achieved more
but couldn’t do so. It will be too late, whenever you are in doubt what to
do just remember if this is the last day
of your life how will you react ? Do you want to be remembered as person who
did what was right for him . It’s not only for the work we do, this is for the relationship this Gen-
Z is going through as well. For instant gratification half of the people are in
relationships, marriage in which they don’t understand the emotionally and mental
space the other person is in. I am not saying them to wait but if you don’t try
chairs you will not be sure which one to buy but don’t choose the chair which
doesn’t fight your personality to be part of liking the popular . Strangely
they have constipation even when they love somebody they can’t express it
easilyFor relationships I believe in one fundaRishto woh rishta hai jisme bandhan na hoDil mein tammana ho warna dhadkan na ho This in
simple language just means that we might have some fears of being left alone
but trust me the best relationships are those which are based on the heart but
there is no restriction. You connect because you both want not because it’s
age, it’s your parent want or somebody else is getting married etc or any lame
excuse . Moment we learn to do what we want to do with full heart we will not
be worried about society , people around us be it daily life hassles . This
society as mentioned earlier will keep on saying and teaching you things even which
they can’t follow. Learn to
love yourself and stop procrastination since world is waiting for the another
Darwin theory not the Darwin’s Delay
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