Taapsee Pannu’s Thappad,Slap, trailer made me think it’s not
the story of some women but of every women in India or around the world. For those of you who don't know hindi Thappad translation is slap. Where
she feels violated with the slap she receives from the man she loves. When she
stands for her rights and her respect and what she faces isn’t what you would
expect from her family? First thing her own mother says “Bus yahi dikhna bakki
reh gaya tha ki beta ka divorce hoga” for those who don’t understand Hindi is “It
was the last thing she could imagine in the world she would see her daughter getting divorce “. So , what
options does any normal female has it – to stuck to a marriage where she is violated and sticking
to man whom she doesn’t love for society’s stake. Because her own mother doesn’t
have strength to bear the series of the questions society will put on them.
May be she will stick
for her emotional attachment for her mother with this guy and each second she
will only get more scared because this
guy can hurt her more physically in the name of love and spur of the heated moment.
Medically you call this Anger issues and should be put behind bars or through psychological
treatment but nothing happens to the guy. He is shown putting more pressure on
the girl through friends and family . Next she is shown giving answer to series
of absurd questions from females, law abiding officials and Knowingly or
unknowingly the friend even who in the name of supporting her. It’s her journey
of breaking down and realizing she alone has to face others and find strength
somewhere within.
Thappad is the every word I have been wanting to say after seeing
the journey of so many close females , conversation I myself have gone through
making some of them understand. I am not going to quote any names and don’t ask
in personal interactions with me also.
Before blaming how one nurturer who was meant to be your
strength becomes your biggest villain in this transit society
Way back when human race was formed. Men was more powerful
in strength and things were uncertain in the animal kingdom they took the role
of the hunter. Man hunted any animal for their survival. Man needed female to
procreate that’s why we as a breed are alive otherwise we would have been.
Since man and female had to co-exist and were so opposite that they married to
co-exist in the society, man took the role of provider while female took the
role of nurturer to bind things together. So with generations to generations it
has been passed on from generations to generations we as females have to adjust
else we can beat our opponent through physical force. For people to protect themselves
and keep the society bind it was very much required science had progressed and
they have seen or heard stories of villages or community to be destroyed when
either man or either woman don’t stick together through unknown diseases. As
our society progressed and industrialization took place, we no longer needed
man to do labourise work which gave some opportunity to the female to enter the
workforce. Some women paved path for other females to join them while every
dynamic in workplace was made for man to work. With strength of female in the workplace,
people started to realize the progressive way of using the true strength of nurturer
side of the females and many fellow female to could join. This was done at the
expense of the overstretching of the females to balance both or leaving one for
another for long. Because man may say that they are progressive but when it
comes to make a compromise for the family it is the female who was taking toll.
This makes financial sense also because the set up of the marriage in most
countries is man is normally elder and has no additional responsibility to play
can anytime is earning more .This also continued for a generation but somewhere
with more payscale ,more opportunity, more science and more awareness , may
females formed strength in each other , initial setup no longer is required. So
now woman is both the nurturer and provider also. She sometimes have lost the
nurturing part of herself but society is such that provider side is prominent. With
all the juggling of everything alone. Family setup of man and woman coming
together to procreate was right but with max burden on the woman, she has
started to ask for more from the other party. She is looking for a man who is companion
not a cargo to carry on her shoulder while she knows she can fly well without
baggage. She has started to question the norms in the society but what about
the man. I have known more nurturer than females but some stubborn providers
who don’t understand who say they have sacrificed for the family in earning for
family are taken aback now which the questions he was not made ready by another
nurturer. How will the woman of 80 years change now or even woman half her
change now ? For 80 years old to change she has to be open minded which in hierarchical
society is tough. These low self esteem provider when questioned have the max
anger challenges and when nurturer is not ready to adjust after some years of
giving to the provider .Even if she is adjusting in the name of her parents
once they are gone so is the bond’s name
This is the time for men to be surprised when men who were
asking women to take back step realize that their kids don’t need them , their
wives don’t need them anymore and some strong people have realized instead of
slow death while living with people who are not good for her emotional and
mental health they can divorce . Peace is more important in world than a partner next to you
Is the time man are getting slapped ?
Or
Is the time woman are realizing where they were violated ?
Or
Is the time woman are realizing where they have always known
but kept quiet to fit in the society?
Or
Is the time man will change ?
What happens in this transit time of Thappad? Will man grow with pace woman are growing or we become dysfunctional for some time
P.S. I am not man hater but not raising your voice when you
are violated be it man or woman I can’t stand. I am writing more from woman’s
side because its easy for them to tell their stories to me and I can make
logical judgement and understanding the bigger bigger picture
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